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I sat down with Lewis to discuss Bisexuality: The Basics. In our wide-ranging conversation, we spoke about his writing process, how on earth he found the time, coming out as bi, gay biphobia, bi dating, negative health disparities, building bi community, labeling problems, anti-bi algorithms, and more.

I saw that as a big responsibility, so I always replied to people and did my best to give them advice. Lewis: Yes, absolutely. It covers lots of topics. It covers all these different variations, plus the role gender might play. I talk a lot about dating, relationships, and worries people might have.

How to interact with the LGBT community is another one. Lewis: Not to brag, but it did take quite a while to write this book. The big thing for me was figuring out what the questions would be. I would pull out my phone and, after getting the kids down, try to get an hour or so of writing on my notes app.

Lewis: That was the big thing for me. I wanted to write a book that people would actually read. Lewis: When you are ready to come out, you will know. I definitely put pressure on myself to come out before I was ready, before I was confident in who I was.

A lot of people want to tell their parents, or their partner, or someone monumental in their life. Just tell a stranger in a bar to start and build up your experience of coming out. Lewis: For me, coming out was a tough road. Especially because, at the time, I had a boyfriend.

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So when I was single for the first time, people saw my bisexuality in practice. I was going on dates with guys sometimes and other times with girls, and that was when I realized how much trouble people had with bisexuality, particularly within the LGBT community. When you can be strong in that sense, people usually back down.

Pretty soon after, I was writing my first articles, picking up a little bit of traction, and starting to understand what role I could play in having discussions around bisexuality more publicly than just with friends. Lewis: In my experience, the people who have had the biggest problem with my bisexuality have been gay men.

There are statistics to support this too. There are numerous studies that say bi people, in particular, are not accepted as part of the LGBT community, and there are a couple of factors for that. Coming out is not an easy thing to do. I think we just have to be mindful of the stigma and false stereotypes this has created, and it's worth clarifying that bisexuality is, of course, a real orientation.

Lewis: One of the biggest ones is culture shock. Lewis: If you look at the data, bi people tend to do worse in every way we measure success. Why could these things be happening? Researchers find that bisexual people are more likely to smoke and excessively drink, for example, but then they just move on.